Embrace Your Mother Archetype

I love personality tests, and understanding your strengths and weakness can really help in finding peace and joy in motherhood.

Maybe you love cleaning and can’t relax till the dishes are done, or maybe your house is verging on unhygienic cause you prefer to play with your kids.

Maybe you are fastidiously organised or always running fashionably late.

Maybe you are consistent and predictable, maybe you are intuitive and emotional.

Maybe you prioritise fun, maybe you prioritise education.

The thing is, there is no one correct way to be a mother. Spending too much time on Instagram can lead you to believe that every other mother is doing it Martha Stewart style complete with crafting, cooking, de-cluttering and a successful career to boot.

But this is fool’s gold. Here’s the truth:

“You can do anything, but not everything”

David Allen

Figure out what you are good at, and stick to that.

Do some personality tests (there are literally millions of options online!) Find your strengths and outsource the rest.

I can’t knit, so my mum is teaching my daughter. I hate sport, luckily my husband is an athlete. I suck at cleaning, so we pay a cleaner.

On the other hand, I love cooking and often cook for friends when they are sick or have a baby. I am smart at business, so I earn a good income for my family. And I can sing and play the piano which means I can teach my kids and we have plenty of family sing-a-longs.

Embracing your strengths and outsourcing the rest frees you to be the mum you want to be, and your village will fill in the gaps.

No one is perfect, but together we can provide all the pieces of the puzzle.